Part Two

Well done for writing your lists in the last edition.

I am sure it wasn’t easy, but you DID IT.

Now you’re positively moving forward and have taken control of your situation.

Step 2: What steps must be taken to change:

From step 1, you should know the following:

Is it worth carrying on the way you was (by filling out the positive and negative table), why have you been carrying out this behavior that is not serving you and any other relevant points.

If that is not the case, go back as you have missed something or were not completely honest with yourself.

Now I want you to write a list of all the possible things that you feel could help you to get out of your situation.

Bearing in mind all the points and revelations from Step 1.

To give you an idea there are a couple of things that I wrote when fighting out of my drug addiction.

1. Acceptance and forgiveness

2. Habit-changing (physically / mentally)

3. Change my circle of friends

4. Must change as I have no choice

Acceptance: (this is the version that I have in my book)

Without accepting your situation, it’s not possible to move forward and repair yourself. It’s like your car has a damaged gearbox, but you keep on repairing other parts because you don’t believe the gearbox is the problem. Will your car ever run right?

Or will it keep breaking down?

It is very, very hard and painful to look in the mirror or deep inside yourself and say, ‘I have a problem. I have lost the battle. I am a drug addict/alcoholic. I don’t have the power to say no to this substance. This substance is more important to me than my kids, family, friends and everything I love in this world.’

It’s sad to say, but I put drugs and partying first in terms of my actions. I always claimed to love my kids more than anything, but this was not the case with my actions. I put my drugs first and risked everything for that high.

Remember: 
Talking is easy and means ZERO. It’s your actions that count and matter.

When I truly admitted this to myself, I broke down in tears, a broken man. The proud man I once was – Mickey One Punch – was no more.

I cried uncontrollably for a while; the pain in my soul was terrible. But once I calmed down, I felt a huge sense of relief and hope. There was light at the end of the tunnel.

After completing you know the WHY and What needs to be done to change.

In the next edition I will explain the third Step.

Till then, be kind to yourself

Mike